Received: from evaki.its.uow.edu.au ([130.130.68.32]) by anubis.ad.uow.edu.au with Microsoft SMTPSVC(6.0.3790.3959); Sun, 10 Feb 2008 08:51:13 +1100 Received: from febris-nat.its.uow.edu.au ([130.130.68.210] helo=febris.its.uow.edu.au) by evaki.its.uow.edu.au with esmtp (Exim 4.69) (envelope-from ) id 1JNxbN-0001hl-Nf for blane@uow.edu.au; Sun, 10 Feb 2008 08:51:13 +1100 Received: from c3.confirmedcc.com (c3.confirmedcc.com [64.95.77.164]) by febris.its.uow.edu.au (MOS 3.8.5-GA) with ESMTP id IDW82461; Sun, 10 Feb 2008 08:51:09 +1100 (EST) Received: from p1-ws008 (unknown [10.250.0.101]) by c3.confirmedcc.com (Postfix) with ESMTP id BBEEF98966 for ; Sat, 9 Feb 2008 21:51:07 +0000 (UTC) Message-ID: <1101968107949.1101938345415.1211.8.109165002@scheduler> Date: Sat, 9 Feb 2008 16:51:07 -0500 (EST) From: Fatherhood Foundation Reply-To: info@fathersonline.org To: blane@uow.edu.au Subject: Strong Fathers Strong Daughters Mime-Version: 1.0 Content-Type: multipart/alternative; boundary="----=_Part_244576_1255870494.1202593867743" X-Mailer: Roving Constant Contact 0 (http://www.constantcontact.com) List-Unsubscribe: http://visitor.constantcontact.com/d.jsp?p=un&v=001jm8CFGIzLJHYg-gJRLc-3d90mBLDU8ykLdRdA9tw_d3-m367M1lbXA== X-Return-Path-Hint: ESC1101968107949_1101938345415_1211@in.confirmedcc.com X-Roving-ID: 1101938345415.1211 X-Lumos-SenderID: 1101938345415 X-Roving-CampaignId: 1101968107949 X-Roving-StreamId: 0 X-Junkmail-Status: score=10/49, host=febris.its.uow.edu.au X-Junkmail-SD-Raw: score=unknown, refid=str=0001.0A090207.47AE2050.01BB,ss=1,fgs=0, ip=64.95.77.164, so=2007-07-31 18:51:00, dmn=5.4.3/2008-02-01 Return-Path: ESC1101968107949_1101938345415_1211@in.confirmedcc.com X-OriginalArrivalTime: 09 Feb 2008 21:51:13.0410 (UTC) FILETIME=[E394AE20:01C86B65] ------=_Part_244576_1255870494.1202593867743 Content-Type: text/plain; charset=iso-8859-1 Content-Transfer-Encoding: 7bit ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ 11 February 2008 Inspiring Fathers Encouraging Families Issue 286 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Strong Fathers Strong Daughters ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Dear Brian, Welcome to the Fatherhood Foundation newsletter and email information service for the fathers and families. Our children are so important. This week is about Fathers and daughters. There is a strong message at: 'Fathers be good to your daughters' by John Mayer [http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=001pNyAPBDdSQZ9SNAB7VlpfDfz1BPC3XdIm6KwbvApw_7GhxSR9b3RHDXLHqqSWxZS--0y21n1qY23t1Ho_3XEOrirUMRTPSszhT1jtAcjyPkKMJHK5diebBW-sVjPnqW0dKGH_eWjU5I=] In This Issue Frontline...10 Secrets for Fathers Laughter..I'm picking her up Grandfathers... Daughters and gorillas All You Need is Love..Marriage is not outdated Single Dads...In memory Special Feature...Children need a Dad News & Info...Interesting response Dad's Prayer..Be good to the women ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ [http://visitor.constantcontact.com/email.jsp?m=1101938345415] Join our Mailing List! 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Girls become lovers who turn into mothers So mothers be good to your daughters too. John Mayer ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Frontline A few weeks ago Steve De Keijzer told me a humbling but wonderful experience he had with his 16 year old daughter. She had an assignment from school to write a story on a person who had a profound impact on her life. She chose to write about her dad. Steve's story is printed in full in our Special Feature this week. Steve's daughter is not the only woman in the world who knows that fathers are important. Earlier in the week I did a radio interview with ABC Radio in Perth, Western Australia and Sydney on the importance of a father in his daughter's life. Whilst doing some research on daughters and dads I came across some great websites eg www.daughters.com [http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=001pNyAPBDdSQZQe_OnIRQTmPKZbti0mJukuo5q5VcSMIJSrs3D8rEcO9kXwlejguxSrGfYf3Z4aIYCFwmezCfLqdc4fl-E6CO9NxkX9kpSw2cop8HJWHbFuA==] and www.dadsanddaughters.org [http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=001pNyAPBDdSQbM5fgE7K3d8Hf3vRTv5vfThnq-d4vg04MzJ8Pkz3EkXgaiqSSOg0EHcYOaL27TfS4cupxxrG0W6Cpvps1I5Fsr8CS9MUmzvOzAF5sZJV-_bAzANRm_pNnQ] Most importantly I came across a great book titled: 'Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters - 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know' by Dr Meg Meeker, Regnery Publishing. I have a 15 year old daughter and two baby granddaughters so I need to know what these ten secrets are, so I am going to buy it for myself. If you wish you can get the first chapter of the book for free from www.strongfathersbook.com [http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=001pNyAPBDdSQYgppuzay7UPDJB4k01FEPs5YRwJ6cVn9Aa6GRc903r09P64AGu6_01si9LigKVE5HR7GxMa4PrmvRW7HcZiQCRcSYf8W3uU6BDf4peZ9fTo2TPoFo9HV01] Here's a taste of what Dr Meg Meeker has to say: Men, good men: We need you. We - mothers, daughters, and sisters - need your help to raise healthy young women. We need every ounce of masculine courage and wit you own, because fathers, more than anyone else, set the course for a daughter's life. Your daughter needs the best of who you are: your strength, your courage, your intelligence, and your fearlessness. She needs your empathy, assertiveness, and self confidence. She needs you. Our daughters need the support that only fathers can provide, and if you are willing to guide your daughter, to stand between her and a toxic culture, to take her to a healthier place, your rewards will be unmatched. You will experience the love and adoration that can come only from a daughter. You will feel a pride, satisfaction, and joy that you can know nowhere else. After more than twenty years of listening to daughters - and doling out antibiotics, anti-depressants, and stimulants to girls who have gone without a father's love - I know just how important fathers are. I have listened hour after hour to young girls describe how they vomit in junior high bathrooms to keep their weight down. I have listened to fourteen-year-old girls tell me they have to provide fellatio - which disgusts them - in order to keep their boyfriends. I've watched girls drop off varsity tennis teams, flunk out of school, and carve initials or tattoo cult figures onto their bodies - all to see if their dads will notice. And I have watched daughters talk to fathers. When you come in the room, they change. Everything about them changes: their eyes, their mouths, their gestures, their body language. Daughters are never lukewarm in the presence of their fathers. They might take their mothers for granted, but not you. They light up - or they cry. They watch you intensely. They hang on your words. They hope for your attention, and they wait for it in frustration - or in despair. They need a gesture of approval, a nod of encouragement, or even simple eye contact to let them know you care and are willing to help. When she's in your company, your daughter tries harder to excel. When you teach her, she learns more rapidly. When you guide her, she gains confidence. If you fully understood just how profoundly you can influence your daughter's life, you would be terrified, overwhelmed, or both. Boyfriends, brothers, even husbands can't shape her character the way you do. You will influence her entire life because she gives you an authority she gives no other man. Many fathers (particularly of teen girls) assume they have little influence over their daughters - certainly less influence than their daughters' peers or pop culture - and think their daughters need to figure out life on their own. But your daughter faces a world markedly different from the one you did growing up: it's less friendly, morally unmoored, and even outright dangerous. . . . . Don't think you can't fight her "peers" or the power of pop culture. Exactly the opposite is true. Yes, the four Ms-MTV, music, movies, and magazines - are enormous influences that shape what girls think about themselves, what clothes they wear, and even the grades they get. But their influence doesn't come close to the influence of a father. A lot of research has been done on this - and fathers always come out on top. The effects of loving, caring fathers on their daughters' lives can be measured in girls of all ages. Young Girls Toddlers securely attached to fathers are better at solving problems. Six-month-old babies score higher on tests of mental development if their dads are involved in their lives. With dads present in the home, kids manage school stress better. Girls whose fathers provide warmth and control achieve higher academic success. Girls who are close to their fathers exhibit less anxiety and withdrawn behaviors. Older Girls Girls with doting fathers are more assertive. Daughters who perceive that their fathers care a lot about them, who feel connected to their fathers, have significantly fewer suicide attempts and fewer instances of body dissatisfaction, depression, low self-esteem, substance use, and unhealthy weight. Girls with involved fathers are twice as likely to stay in school. A daughter's self-esteem is best predicted by her father's physical affection. Girls with fathers who are involved in their lives have higher quantitative and verbal skills and higher intellectual functioning. Girls with good fathers are less likely to flaunt themselves to seek male attention. Fathers help daughters become more competent, more achievement-oriented, and more successful. A daughter from a middle-class family has a fivefold lower risk of out-of-wedlock pregnancy if her father lives at home. Lovework Make a date with your daughter today, no matter what her age. What's true for daughters is also true for sons. Do the same for all your children. Dads are important. Yours for strong loving dads Warwick Marsh PS Don't forget to treat the woman of your dreams to something special on Valentine's Day, Thursday 14th February. It's the little things that count. ______________________________________________________________________________ Warwick Marsh has been married to Alison for 32 years. He is the grandfather of two children and father of five children, four boys and one girl, ranging in age from 27 years to 14 years. Warwick is a musician, songwriter, producer and public speaker who likes to think he can still laugh at himself. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Laughter At Saint Mary's Catholic Church they have a weekly husband's marriage seminar. At the session last week, the Priest asked Luigi, who was approaching his 50th wedding anniversary, to take a few minutes and share some insight into how he had managed to stay married to the same woman all these years. Luigi replied to the assembled husbands, "Well, I've a-tried to treat-a her nice, spend the money on her, but best is that I took-a her to Italy for the 20th anniversary!" The Priest responded, "Luigi, you are an amazing inspiration to all the husbands here! Please tell us what you are planning for your wife for your 50th anniversary." Luigi proudly replied, "I'm a-gonna go and get her." ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Grandfathers Watching your daughter being collected by her date feels like handing a million dollar Stradivarius violin to a gorilla. Jim Bishop ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ All You Need is Love Boring Couple [http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=001pNyAPBDdSQb9NARngAx-K7d4t3qfSGD88fnzWh5DmR6YYD2kjLqo-aRStr7reEjno2pAwS3sLah570CGZe51OZBQMzgYPreq40E6idJbCnpRPySEf13fXtRjXH2X_FmB1DIFTCSzlPT68VuJY0KXlyGsySERhiNbXs6gtdHiuryaptj0aeuHCIGTlSXc3R9zFsCsZ88ssmKh8cHLVsfxDaBfWFXrsrz7g8snnnh96RH7EMfA5epcdA==] Three Cures for a Boring Marriage By Stephen W. Frueh PhD You may have thought marriage was going to be a relationship wonder, a trip to the moon, a continuous night out, stars twinkling, music playing. You may wonder why your partner is no longer fascinated with your every gesture. When you realize the hormone rush has subsided, it's time to check in and take a look at what this thing called marriage really is, and is meant to be. Here's a beginning for any couple who desire to resurrect their enthusiasm, rediscover their fascination, open delicious conversation and begin living in the promise of marriage. Start with a question. "If you could change anything about our marriage, what would it be?" This question cannot be used for mutual diagnosis. It doesn't ask "if you could change anything about me, what would it be?" Diagnosis is of the left brain and leads to cold analysis of each other. Diagnosis increases distance and leads to hostility. The asking of this question ought to lead to your partner's vision of a delightful marriage. It should open to your marriage dreamed. It offers the possibility of transcending the ordinary. This question leads to a second. I ask it this way: "If I am 100% responsible for my own happiness and if the happiness, joy, and well being of this marriage is mine alone to create, where am I holding back? What can I do to bring new life into this marriage? How do I sabotage my own loving so that the 'heart life' of this marriage is diminished?" Clearly the greatest challenge to grown ups is that of continually finding a pathway to your own loving. It is not 'whether I am loved the way I imagine I ought to be loved' question but 'do I love and is my loving clear and flowing?' This question puts the action where it belongs - on the lover, not the lovee. The third question puts feet under the first two. "How well do I hear what my partner is telling me?" This question requires patience and trust. I ask my partner this: "do you think I listen to you?" Am I responsive to his/ her feelings/ thoughts/ imaginings - or do I simply endure, indulge or tolerate? Responsiveness is easily confirmed. If you do not listen, or can't hear at a deep level what your partner is bringing you, every day will look a lot like yesterday. If you can, you'll begin to open new pathways to intimacy. You may have to grow up a little, learn to embrace conflict, deepen your trust, throw away your suspicions. Creating sustainable enthusiasm for relationship is an everyday job. It means that you move your relationship up in the list of priorities - above computer games, television, busy work. Also above old wounds, slights, and the self indulgence of being a victim of your partner. Stephen W. Frueh PhD is a speaker, coach, workshop leader and author. He can be reached at Stephen@withtheserings.com [mailto:Stephen@WithTheseRings.com] or www.withtheserings.com [http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=001pNyAPBDdSQYWLyRzdSDP9gJJHwul3iHZ2Benl68ti_Msh8yDEx9tfFXmpeRsynnjmrg46jqg7M2ZOkqSb4XinbcqQ5UK0bMm6A2rB1v4hz7ly-TFfs_H85MEkfbX41Jl] ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dads Tony's Diary It is not usual for the Fatherhood Foundation to post articles by women, we prefer men to encourage men, but below is a moving account about suicide from the website of dads in distress www.dadsindistress.asn.au [http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=001pNyAPBDdSQYCOIQmClkYbaJH1Eealn3o7yDiB1tyLcwqwnqyPmcE6tFe_CGX_Oe06WY9JlQqNKJjr8M6hbKWfsTTfzwX5zm7_YKjAJXciaI-yQppp3Lhpo5zbNXhvxaH] Suicide hurts everyone, no one escapes the pain. Below is a mothers journey. (names and places have been changed to protect the privacy of those involved) Hi Tony Haven't been near your site for quite some time, my thoughts were DIDS is 'men's business' so leave the blokes alone!!! Stop snooping and mind your own business 'women's business' lol... Today, after receiving the DIDS newsletter I went into your diary and sadly read the news about Erich and it brought back to me (as it does) the deepness of sorrow and total despair forced upon families and I believe in particular us mothers. You know the client base we work with down here at the Community Centre, people come here to access support for a particular immediate need or crisis. I am over whelmed the volume of mothers, sisters, daughters etc... just through conversation or a cuppa have revealed to me the loss of sons, husbands, partners, brothers, uncles, grandfather etc... through suicide. The mothers anguish is indescribable, the Burdon is hellish and you carry it around 24/7, mostly covered up by the issues you face from day to day. In May 2007, my son's best mate and the one who found my boy in 2004 hung himself in the very same spot and this time it was his mother who found him. There I was again!!!! and there it was again for John's family. I always felt a secret guilt for Michael hanging himself in their family home (maybe it's a mother's thing not sure). They were so good to my son and treated him the same as they did their own and I felt so guilty. Sitting in the lounge talking to Jenny and knowing what was ahead was just so hard... Jenny turned to me and said, "I am so angry with John, he knew the grief and suffering that Michael's death caused but he has still gone ahead and done it... I am so sorry!!" She was feeling guilty that her son has caused more grief on me and mine. I was talking to a male client some time in late 2004. He told me he came very close to suicide one night, as we spoke, and he said he had rang a 1800 number or similar and got an answering machine, he hung up the phone and with a last desperate cry he rang his mum. She had spoken the words to show him a light at the end of the tunnel. I saw a picture of him in the local paper a few weeks ago and he looked so well and healthy - he had won some local sporting event... and had a grin from ear to ear, a far cry from the broken man I saw here at the Centre. My thoughts turned to his mother and I remember thinking GOOD ON YOU MUM... You know Tony........ men's business is women's business especially when depression creeps in regardless of who did what... since my son's death I have gone through a very dirty marriage split and become more and more astonished by my ex's tactics and determination to total me... Recently I had to put it all aside, he had a traumatic incident at his work 'Underground' and afterwards depression started to sneak in. Most of his friends, family and the dog up the road had heard enough of his woes from our split and did not want to involve themselves this time round. He rang me and told me he was so down and needed support but could not even go to the DIDS here because it was at the Centre... my first thought was COOL suffer... payback time... but I made it my business to help him regardless of the crap because I was not going to leave a door open to the risk of suicide regardless how near or far away it was. This email looks like it has turned into this is my life but I just wanted to get the point across that we have to take our eyes off ourselves and off the other person (even the pain of past events) and understand an enemy is on the attack and somebody is hurting. I just don't want to see other mothers travel this road that I and many, many other mothers have been forced to travel. Guys think of your mum no matter how old you are. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Special feature Fathers and Daughters By Steve de Keijzer My 16 year-old daughter came home recently and told me of an assignment that she had to complete. The assignment consisted of a written and oral presentation on a person who had a profound impact on her life. For that person she had chosen me, as her father, who was the one who had the most profound impact on her life. This was a scary proposition for me as I was not expecting to be in this position. I had been expecting her to choose my wife. Once I had got over the initial shock, I was humbled by the fact that she simply stated to me that she could not think of a better person to write about. It had not really occurred to me that I was a person to emulate and admire. We, (my daughter and I) had to spend some time together recounting shaping factors and defining moments in my life. These were the things that made me who I am and shaped my belief system into what it is today. I explained to her that my greatest belief was that God is, and He wants to make and mould us like Jesus. This is the basis of my whole belief system and all else builds on this foundation. This is where I get my moral guidance from, my opinions and beliefs are formed from here and I am a greater person as a result. We then went into lengthy and wide-ranging discussion about factors that affected me and have shaped me. I explained to her that I have a saying that goes like this: 'In life you may have been given a pile of rubble but you can make a castle out of it'. I told her many things that I had shared with no other person apart from my wife. I shared with her that I had a very unhappy childhood and was unhappy until I met and married my current wife (18 years). These childhood experiences taught me things that I vowed never to repeat. One of these was that I would never give my children the upbringing that I received. Another was that I would treat my children fairly and equally. I spoke to her of the handicap that my childhood turned out to be. So that when I left home and entered into the big bad world my childhood did not prepare me socially, for life and the interactions with other people. I have had to learn all these lessons the hard way. I told her too, how I feel that life is a learning process and we are all capable of changing and one of the greatest things that I have is three children who love my wife and I. During our discussions, I told my daughter that there is some school of thought that men are basically redundant in this modern society and that all upbringing, nurturing and caring should be done by the women. I also explained to her that I don't feel that this is the case because good men provide a different viewpoint and therefore a greater, more rounded upbringing for their children. Good fathers are responsible for their sons, but they are also responsible for their daughters and have a lasting impact on these lives too. My daughter gave the speech and received an A+. I hope that this is of some assistance because it has been instructional and very inspirational to me. Regards to all and I hope you are inspired in 2008. Steve Watch this inspiring daughter talk about her Dad. [http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=001pNyAPBDdSQZE9kHcW8X8vGM5yfjKUfUsosLVdfT8H_T8IYmv04bpBFd0cg1SK2sSLJ8QLVZEobIcfhs9zKQrwGJYzsap5rtoywlIbuJYH7vH3NCU3k2f6NYpKcOtBXgE3GZitl4yWhI=] ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ News & Info Remember Valentines Day Thursday 14th February Parents want boys then maybe a girl - Read More: [http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=001pNyAPBDdSQYOnJ9tN9JhCz-q28O6UM3avH-6tsgy_OX5rNjFyjI-jrFQ-XrAMW2WBBdJoUHx5aOGeD7sTY8kvFXiTDJ0rNUbiBpkn69qD3tpdsxW8JGbvuonuPsRo3a2oYIkPqbWgsEYmbRaByzmRvscVYlbg3GPG52QylWy2ao=] Position Vacant Development Manager Fatherhood Foundation Applications Close 20th February 2008. The Fatherhood Foundation is a tax deductible faith-based charity with the goal of inspiring fathers and renewing families. Our aim is to prevent the harm caused by fatherlessness to the children of Australia. We are looking for an energetic and enthusiastic man who is committed to the cause found in the words of Malachi 'to turn the hearts of the fathers to the children and the hearts of the children to their fathers'. The role of the Development Manager is to obtain funding and support to enable the cause of the Fatherhood Foundation to be fulfilled. The applicant would need to be highly disciplined, exhibit great management skills and possess excellent communication abilities with an entrepreneurial attitude. An attractive salary package will be provided for the successful applicant. For more information visit http://www.fatherhood.org.au/employment.html [http://rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=001BVdAMMc38UpcHjvEb_nGkoxnwbuS4Xbb9S2fCEkkSogW7Cke6c5C0VBEh6MFcXyUYqq1YPy6Ul4SAim0g4N7_1CxL3ORBlU6W7ckEfWJELvYqISUMSonGdcEGEFrM_JoVDjb1GOdmds=/ohttp://rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=001BVdAMMc38UpcHjvEb_nGkoxnwbuS4Xbb9S2fCEkkSogW7Cke6c5C0VBEh6MFcXyUYqq1YPy6Ul4SAim0g4N7_1CxL3ORBlU6W7ckEfWJELvYqISUMSonGdcEGEFrM_JoVDjb1GOdmds=/t_blank] Letters Melbourne's Herald Sun letter in response to Alan Howe's article. I read with disbelief Alan Howe's column item, "Who needs the dads?" (January 17) As a primary school teacher I see every day the effects of broken marriages on young children and how much they miss their fathers. To hear children talk about this and how they long to see their dads in two weeks' time (some much longer), and for just a weekend, is heartbreaking. I have had many single mothers ask for me to be their children's teacher over the years. This is not necessarily because they think I'm a good teacher, but because they know how important it is for a child to have a male role model in their lives. As a father of three beautiful children, there is no greater thrill than arriving home from work each day and seeing the delight on their faces when I walk through the front door and hear their stories about their day. Dads important? I think so! Michael Mahoney 18/1/2008 ______________________ Dear Fatherhood Foundation Thanks for the newsletter. I don't even know how often I receive it at my work email address, but I know that I look forward to it and spend my breaks looking through it. I am a husband, father and grandfather, and love being all three, each to a varying degree, and know I can do a better job at any one of them. Having just read a section on being a father (to my 23 year old son), I do realise that a son DOES need the input from a male role model and this MUST be his father. biological father if possible, but must have that 'fatherly' influence. Someone with the responsibility and authority of a father. I look at my son and see a mature young man with many pressures, stresses and concerns about work, finances, relationships, God, friends etc. He is handling these with a maturity that is both gained from his observations on life itself, but also from the input from his parents and grandparents. I see traits in him that were obviously gained from his mother, some from me, and also some from his Pa Pou (Greek heritage). I am extremely proud of my boy, and see that the world will be in good hands with more young men like him to take on the next generation after him. Thanks again for your newsletter. Rob Ham ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Dad's Prayer Dear God Help me be good to my daughters. Help me be good to the women in my life because they will reflect that goodness back to the men in their life. They will reflect that goodness to their children. Help me rise above the norm because daughters are important and every daughter needs a dad. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Help Us! The Fatherhood Foundation is a Harm Prevention Charity. Fatherlessness and inadequate fathering has been proven to be a source of harm. The Fatherhood Foundation helps children by promoting excellence in fathering. Excellent fathers are in word and deed: responsible, involved, protective, loving and committed to the well-being of their children and their children's mother. 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Dear Brian,

Welcome to the Fatherhood Foundation newsletter and ema= il information service for the fathers and families.

Our children are so important. This week is about Fathe= rs and daughters. There is a strong message at:
 
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In This Issue
Frontline...10 Secrets for Fathers
Laughter..I'm picking her up
Grandfathers... Daughters and gorillas
All You Need is Love..Marriage is not outdated
Single Dads...In memory
Special Feature...Children need a Dad
News & Info...Interesting response
Dad's Prayer..Be good to the women
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    3D"Dad_Daughter_Mum"
 
 

Fathers be= good to

 your daughters

Daughters = will love

 like you do.

Girls beco= me lovers

who turn into mothers

So m= others be good to your daughters too.

 
J= ohn Mayer
Frontline
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3D"GirlA few weeks ago Steve De Keijzer told me a humbling bu= t wonderful experience he had with his 16 year old daughter. She had an ass= ignment from school to write a story on a person who had a profound impact = on her life. She chose to write about her dad. Steve's story is printed in = full in our Special Feature this week.

 

Steve's daugh= ter is not the only woman in the world who knows that fathers are important= . Earlier in the week I did a radio interview with ABC Radio in Perth, West= ern Australia and Sydney on the importance of a father in his daughter's li= fe. Whilst doing some research on daughters and dads I came across some gre= at websites eg www.daughters.com and www.dadsanddaughters.org  Most importantly I came across a great book title= d: 'Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters - 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know'= by Dr Meg Meeker, Regnery Publishing.

 

I have a 15 y= ear old daughter and two baby granddaughters so I need to know what these t= en secrets are, so I am going to buy it for myself.

 

If you wish y= ou can get the first chapter of the book for free from www.strongfathersbook.com

 

Here's a tast= e of what Dr Meg Meeker has to say:

 

<= span style=3D"FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana; mso-ansi-language: EN-= US">Men, good men: We need you. We - mothers, daugh= ters, and sisters - need your help to raise healthy young women. We need ev= ery ounce of masculine courage and wit you own, because fathers, more than = anyone else, set the course for a daughter's life. Your daughter needs the = best of who you are: your strength, your courage, your intelligence, and yo= ur fearlessness. She needs your empathy, assertiveness, and self confidence= . She needs you.<= /span>

 

Our daughters need= the support that only fathers can provide, and if you are willing to guide= your daughter, to stand between her and a toxic culture, to take her to a = healthier place, your rewards will be unmatched. You will experience the lo= ve and adoration that can come only from a daughter. You will feel a pride,= satisfaction, and joy that you can know nowhere else.

 

After more than tw= enty years of listening to daughters - and doling out antibiotics, anti-dep= ressants, and stimulants to girls who have gone without a father's love - I= know just how important fathers are. I have listened hour after hour to yo= ung girls describe how they vomit in junior high bathrooms to keep their we= ight down. I have listened to fourteen-year-old girls tell me they have to = provide fellatio - which disgusts them - in order to keep their boyfriends.= I've watched girls drop off varsity tennis teams, flunk out of school, and= carve initials or tattoo cult figures onto their bodies - all to see if th= eir dads will notice.

 

And I have watched= daughters talk to fathers. When you come in the room, they change. Everyth= ing about them changes: their eyes, their mouths, their gestures, their bod= y language. Daughters are never lukewarm in the presence of their fathers. = They might take their mothers for granted, but not you. They light up - or = they cry. They watch you intensely. They hang on your words. They hope for = your attention, and they wait for it in frustration - or in despair. They n= eed a gesture of approval, a nod of encouragement, or even simple eye conta= ct to let them know you care and are willing to help.

 

When she's in your= company, your daughter tries harder to excel. When you teach her, she lear= ns more rapidly. When you guide her, she gains confidence. If you fully und= erstood just how profoundly you can influence your daughter's life, you wou= ld be terrified, overwhelmed, or both. Boyfriends, brothers, even husbands = can't shape her character the way you do. You will influence her entire lif= e because she gives you an authority she gives no other man. Many fathers (= particularly of teen girls) assume they have little influence over their da= ughters - certainly less influence than their daughters' peers or pop cultu= re - and think their daughters need to figure out life on their own. But yo= ur daughter faces a world markedly different from the one you did growing u= p: it's less friendly, morally unmoored, and even outright dangerous.

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Don't think you ca= n't fight her "peers" or the power of pop culture. Exactly the opposite is = true. Yes, the four Ms-MTV, music, movies, and magazines - are enormous inf= luences that shape what girls think about themselves, what clothes they wea= r, and even the grades they get. But their influence doesn't come close to = the influence of a father. A lot of research has been done on this - and fa= thers always come out on top. The effects of loving, caring fathers on thei= r daughters' lives can be measured in girls of all ages.<= /p>

 

Young Girls

Toddlers securely = attached to fathers are better at solving problems.

Six-month-old babi= es score higher on tests of mental development if their dads are involved i= n their lives.

With dads present = in the home, kids manage school stress better.

Girls whose father= s provide warmth and control achieve higher academic success.=

Girls who are clos= e to their fathers exhibit less anxiety and withdrawn behaviors.

 

Older Girls

Girls with doting = fathers are more assertive.

Daughters who perc= eive that their fathers care a lot about them, who feel connected to their = fathers, have significantly fewer suicide attempts and fewer instances of b= ody dissatisfaction, depression, low self-esteem, substance use, and unheal= thy weight.

Girls with involve= d fathers are twice as likely to stay in school.

A daughter's self-= esteem is best predicted by her father's physical affection.<= /i>

Girls with fathers= who are involved in their lives have higher quantitative and verbal skills= and higher intellectual functioning.

Girls with good fa= thers are less likely to flaunt themselves to seek male attention.

Fathers help daugh= ters become more competent, more achievement-oriented, and more successful.=

A daughter from a = middle-class family has a fivefold lower risk of out-of-wedlock pregnancy i= f her father lives at home.

 

= Lovework

 

Make a date w= ith your daughter today, no matter what her age.

 

What's true f= or daughters is also true for sons. Do the same for all your children.

 

Dads are impo= rtant.

 

Yours for str= ong loving dads

Warwick Marsh

 

PS Don't forg= et to treat the woman of your dreams to something special on Valentine's Da= y, Thursday 14th February. It's the little things that count.

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Warwick Marsh  = ;has been married to Alison for 32 years. He is the grandfather o= f two children and father of five children, four boys and one girl, ranging= in age from 27 years to 14 years.  Warwick is a musician, songwr= iter, producer and public speaker who likes to think he can still laugh at = himself.

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At Saint Mary's Catholic Church they have a weekl= y husband's marriage seminar. At the session last week, the Priest asked Lu= igi, who was approaching his 50th wedding  anniversary, to take a few = minutes and share  some insight into how he had managed to stay marrie= d to the same woman all  these years.

   &nb= sp;      Luigi replied to the assembled husba= nds, "Well, I've a-tried to treat-a her nice, spend the money on her, but b= est is that I took-a her to Italy for the 20th anniversary!"

&nb= sp;         The Priest respond= ed, "Luigi, you are an amazing inspiration to all the husbands here! Please= tell us what you are planning for your wife for your 50th anniversary."
          Luigi = proudly replied, "I'm a-gonna go and get her."

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Grandfathers
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3D"Gorilla_Girl"Watching your daughter

being collected

by her dat= e

feels like= handing a

 million dollar Stradivarius violin

 to a gorilla.

 
Jim Bishop
All You Need is Love
 

 

Three Cures for a Boring Marria= ge

By Stephen W= . Frueh PhD

You may have thought marriage was going = to be a relationship wonder, a trip to the moon, a continuous night out, st= ars twinkling, music playing. You may wonder why your partner is no longer = fascinated with your every gesture. When you realize the hormone rush has s= ubsided, it's time to check in and take a look at what this thing called ma= rriage really is, and is meant to be.

Here's a beginning for any couple who de= sire to resurrect their enthusiasm, rediscover their fascination, open deli= cious conversation and begin living in the promise of marriage.

Start with a question. "If you could change anything about our marriage, = what would it be?" This question cannot be used for mutual diagnosis. I= t doesn't ask "if you could change anything about me, what would it = be?" Diagnosis is of the left brain and leads to cold analysis of each othe= r. Diagnosis increases distance and leads to hostility. The asking of this = question ought to lead to your partner's vision of a delightful marriage. I= t should open to your marriage dreamed. It offers the possibility of transc= ending the ordinary.

This question leads to a second. I ask i= t this way: "If I am 100% respons= ible for my own happiness and if the happiness, joy, and well being of this= marriage is mine alone to create, where am I holding back? What can I = do to bring new life into this marriage? How do I sabotage my own loving so= that the 'heart life' of this marriage is diminished?"

Clearly the greatest challenge to grown = ups is that of continually finding a pathway to your own loving. It is not = 'whether I am loved the way I imagine I ought to be loved' question but 'do= I love and is my loving clear and flowing?' This question puts the action = where it belongs - on the lover, not the lovee.=

The third question puts feet under the f= irst two. "How well do I hear wha= t my partner is telling me?" This question requires patience and trust.= I ask my partner this: "do you think I listen to you?" Am I responsive to = his/ her feelings/ thoughts/ imaginings - or do I simply endure, indulge or= tolerate?

Responsiveness is easily confirmed. If y= ou do not listen, or can't hear at a deep level what your partner is bringi= ng you, every day will look a lot like yesterday. If you can, you'll begin = to open new pathways to intimacy. You may have to grow up a little, learn t= o embrace conflict, deepen your trust, throw away your suspicions. <= /span>

Creating sustainable enthusiasm for rela= tionship is an everyday job. It means that you move your relationship up in= the list of priorities - above computer games, television, busy work. Also= above old wounds, slights, and the self indulgence of being a victim of yo= ur partner.

 

Stephen W. F= rueh PhD is a speaker, coach, workshop leader and author. He can be reached= at = Stephen@withtheserings.com or www.withtheserings.com

 

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Single Dads

Tony's Diary

It is not usual for the Fatherhoo= d Foundation to post articles by women, we 3D"Suicide"prefer men to encourage men, but below is a moving account ab= out suicide from the website of dads in distress www.dadsindistre= ss.asn.au

Suicide hurts everyone, no one es= capes the pain. Below is a mothers journey.
(names and places have be= en changed to protect the privacy of those involved)

 

Hi T= ony

Haven't been near your site for quite some time, my thought= s were DIDS is 'men's business' so leave the blokes alone!!! Stop snooping = and mind your own business 'women's business' lol...

Today, aft= er receiving the DIDS newsletter I went into your diary and sadly read the = news about Erich and it brought back to me (as it does) the deepness of sor= row and total despair forced upon families and I believe in particular us m= others.

You know the client base we work with down here at the = Community Centre, people come here to access support for a particular immed= iate need or crisis. I am over whelmed the volume of mothers, sisters, daug= hters etc... just through conversation or a cuppa have revealed to me the l= oss of sons, husbands, partners, brothers, uncles, grandfather etc... throu= gh suicide. The mothers anguish is indescribable, the Burdon is hellish and= you carry it around 24/7, mostly covered up by the issues you face from da= y to day.

In May 2007, my son's best mate and the one who found= my boy in 2004 hung himself in the very same spot and this time it was his= mother who found him. There I was again!!!! and there it was again for Joh= n's family. I always felt a secret guilt for Michael hanging himself in the= ir family home (maybe it's a mother's thing not sure). They were so good to= my son and treated him the same as they did their own and I felt so guilty= . Sitting in the lounge talking to Jenny and knowing what was ahead was jus= t so hard... Jenny turned to me and said, "I am so angry with John, he knew= the grief and suffering that Michael's death caused but he has still gone = ahead and done it... I am so sorry!!" She was feeling guilty that her son h= as caused more grief on me and mine.

I was talking to a male cl= ient some time in late 2004. He told me he came very close to suicide one n= ight, as we spoke, and he said he had rang a 1800 number or similar and got= an answering machine, he hung up the phone and with a last desperate cry h= e rang his mum. She had spoken the words to show him a light at the end of = the tunnel. I saw a picture of him in the local paper a few weeks ago and h= e looked so well and healthy - he had won some local sporting event... and = had a grin from ear to ear, a far cry from the broken man I saw here at the= Centre. My thoughts turned to his mother and I remember thinking GOOD ON Y= OU MUM...

You know Tony........ men's business is women's busin= ess especially when depression creeps in regardless of who did what... sinc= e my son's death I have gone through a very dirty marriage split and become= more and more astonished by my ex's tactics and determination to total me.= ..

Recently I had to put it all aside, he had a traumatic incid= ent at his work 'Underground' and afterwards depression started to sneak in= . Most of his friends, family and the dog up the road had heard enough of h= is woes from our split and did not want to involve themselves this time rou= nd. He rang me and told me he was so down and needed support but could not = even go to the DIDS here because it was at the Centre... my first thought w= as COOL suffer... payback time... but I made it my business to help him reg= ardless of the crap because I was not going to leave a door open to the ris= k of suicide regardless how near or far away it was.

This email= looks like it has turned into this is my life but I just wanted to get the= point across that we have to take our eyes off ourselves and off the other= person (even the pain of past events) and understand an enemy is on the at= tack and somebody is hurting. I just don't want to see other mothers travel= this road that I and many, many other mothers have been forced to travel. =

Guys think of your mum no matter how old you are.=

 

 

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Special feature

= Fathers and Daughters=

By Steve de Keijzer

 

My 16 year-old daughter came home re= cently and told me of an assignment that she had to complete.  The ass= ignment consisted of a written and oral presentation on a person who had a = profound impact on her life.  For that person she had chosen me, as he= r father, who was the one who had the most profound impact on her life.&nbs= p; This was a scary proposition for me as I was not expecting to be in this= position.  I had been expecting her to choose my wife.  <= /font>

 

Once I had got over the initial shoc= k, I was humbled by the fact that she simply stated to me that she cou= ld not think of a better person to write about.  It had not really occ= urred to me that I was a person to emulate and admire. 

 

We, (my daughter and I) had to spend= some time3D"Rubble" together recounting shaping factors and defining moments in my = life.  These were the things that made me who I am and shaped my belie= f system into what it is today.  I explained to her that my greatest b= elief was that God is, and He wants to make and mould us like Jesus.  = This is the basis of my whole belief system and all else builds on this fou= ndation.  This is where I get my moral guidance from, my opinions and = beliefs are formed from here and I am a greater person as a result.  <= /img>

 

We then went into lengthy and wide-r= anging discussion about factors that affected me and have shaped me.  = I explained to her that I have a saying that goes like this:<= /p>

 

 'In life you may have= been given a pile of rubble but you can make a castle out of it'. 

 

I told her many things that I had sh= ared with no other person apart from my wife.  I shared with her that = I had a very unhappy childhood and was unhappy until I met and married my c= urrent wife (18 years).  These childhood experiences taught me things = that I vowed never to repeat.  One of these was that I would never giv= e my children the upbringing that I received.  Another was that I woul= d treat my children fairly and equally.  I spoke to her of the handica= p that my childhood turned out to be.  So that when I left home and en= tered into the big bad world my childhood did not prepare me socially, for = life and the interactions with other people.  I have had to learn all = these lessons the hard way.  I told her too, how I feel that life is a= learning process and we are all capable of changing and one of the greates= t things that I have is three children who love my wife and I.

 

During our discussions, I told my da= ughter that there is some school of thought that men are basically redundan= t in this modern society and that all upbringing, nurturing and caring shou= ld be done by the women.  I also explained to her that I don't feel th= at this is the case because good men provide a different viewpoint and ther= efore a greater, more rounded upbringing for their children.  <= /span>

 

Good fathers are responsible for the= ir sons, but they are also responsible for their daughters and have a lasti= ng impact on these lives too.  My daughter gave the speech and receive= d an A+.

 

I hope that this is of some assistan= ce because it has been instructional and very inspirational to me.

 

Regards to all and I hope you a= re inspired in 2008.

 

Steve

 
 
News & Info
3D"Valentine
 
Remember Valentines Day=20
 
Thursday 14th February
 
 

 

 

 
 

Position Vacant3D"Fatherhood
Development Manager Fatherhood Foundation
 
Appli= cations Close 20th February 2008.

The Fatherhood = Foundation is a tax deductible faith-based charity with the goal of inspiri= ng fathers and renewing families. Our aim is to prevent the harm caused by = fatherlessness to the children of Australia. We are looking for an energeti= c and enthusiastic man who is committed to the cause found in the words of = Malachi 'to turn the hearts of the fathers to the children and the hearts o= f the children to their fathers'. The role of the Development Manager is to= obtain funding and support to enable the cause of the Fatherhood Foundatio= n to be fulfilled. The applicant would need to be highly disciplined, exhib= it great management skills and possess excellent communication abilities wi= th an entrepreneurial attitude. An attractive salary package will be provid= ed for the successful applicant.

For more inform= ation visit http://www.fatherhood.org.au/employment.html<= /font>

 
 
Letters3D"Man
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Melbourne's Herald Sun = letter in response to Alan Howe's article.

 

I read with disbelief Alan Howe's co= lumn item, "Who needs the dads?" (January 17)

 

As a primary school teacher I see ev= ery day the effects of broken marriages on young children and how much they= miss their fathers.

 

To hear children talk about this and= how they long to see their dads in two weeks' time (some much longer), and= for just a weekend, is heartbreaking.

 

I have had many single mothers ask f= or me to be their children's teacher over the years.

 

This is not necessarily because they= think I'm a good teacher, but because they know how important it is for a = child to have a male role model in their lives.

 

As a father of three beautiful child= ren, there is no greater thrill than arriving home from work each day and s= eeing the delight on their faces when I walk through the front door and hea= r their stories about their day.

 

Dads important?

I think so!

 

Michael Mahoney 18/1/2008

 

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Dear Fatherhood Foundation

 

Thanks for the newsletter. I don't e= ven know how often I receive it at my work email address, but I know that&n= bsp;I look forward to it and spend my breaks looking through it.

 

I am a husband, father and grandfath= er, and love being all three, each to a varying degree, and know I can do a= better job at any one of them.

 

Having just read a section on being = a father (to my 23 year old son), I do realise that a son DOES need th= e input from a male role model and this MUST be his father. biological fath= er if possible, but must have that 'fatherly' influence. Someone with the r= esponsibility and authority of a father. I look at my son and see a ma= ture young man with many pressures, stresses and concerns about work, finan= ces, relationships, God, friends etc. He is handling these with a matu= rity that is both gained from his observations on life itself, but als= o from the input from his parents and grandparents. I see traits in him tha= t were obviously gained from his mother, some from me, and also some f= rom his Pa Pou (Greek heritage). I am extremely proud of my boy, and see th= at the world will be in good hands with more young men like him to take on = the next generation after him.

 

Thanks again for your newsletter.

 

Rob Ham   =   

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Dad's= Prayer
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3D"Father_Daughter"Dear God

 

Help me be good to my daughters.<= /p>

Help me be good to the women in my life<= /span>

because they will reflect that goodness<= /span>

back to the m= en in their life.

They will reflect that goodness to their childr= en.

Help me rise above the norm

because daughters are important

        = ;            &n= bsp;          and every daught= er needs a dad.
 

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